Dreamer, fangirl,crazy person in a love affair with cats, books, and beautiful actors. If you want to know more - send a message :)
for those who dont understand
heteronormativity and cisnormativity are the reason queer people have to come out
we are automatically assumed cis and straight unless we explicitly say otherwise, which shouldn’t happen
no one should be assumed anything until they explicitly say otherwise
it also makes being queer seen as alien and unnatural
there you go theres your crash course on hetero/cisnormativity
reminder that if we’re in a mutual and you’re under the age of 18 and find it creepy or weird that i’m following you back as an adult then let me know and i’ll unfollow and it won’t need to be a big deal at all… like, please put your own safety and wellbeing first
being homosexual or bisexual isn’t disgusting. but you know what is disgusting? when a man finds it ok for two girls to be making out or something of the sort just because it makes his dick hard, but when its two girls or, god forbid, two men that are in an actual, well-founded relationship and in love, the man finds that disturbing and immoral and wrong. now thats disgusting.
i hope all the homophobes read this.
Hi. This is very difficult for me to talk about, but I think I’m ready!! Ok! As most of my followers know, I’m Karen! I’m an artist from Northern California and I’m here to talk about my dad! I normally don’t like to talk about my personal problems in public but my dad needs help!
My dad, José, was born in México and he came to the U.S. in the mid/late 80s. He, along with my mom, raised three girls: my sisters Grace, Mariseli, and me! My dad has always been a very great dad! Because my mom worked in the evenings when we were younger, he’d take care of us, feed us, play games with us, and let us watch movies all the time. When my dad bought a camcorder for the first time, he recorded a lot of fun memories of his children. We have so many home movies of us watching Jurassic Park 2, singing along to the opening theme of Ranma ½, and running through the sprinklers of our backyard. We’d watch soccer games with him and cheer for his favorite Mexican soccer team, Club America. It was my dad who taught me how to color! He even built us a backyard playground, complete with swings, ladders, a two-story mini playhouse, and a slide! I had a really fun and memorable childhood and I’m sure my sisters would agree.
In the previous months, both sides of my family have been going through extremely painful and emotional experiences and this has affected my dad very deeply, to the point of depression.
My dad is self-employed and does business as a lawn-care maintenance/gardener/etc. He’s been working the same job for as long as he’s been in the U.S. He used to work almost every day of the week, including Saturdays, and he rarely took a day off. Now, he’s been getting less and less business and works maybe three times a week for a few hours. It’s hard for him to get up in the mornings and it’s getting harder for him to go to work. He sleeps long hours as soon as he comes home, he won’t eat and he doesn’t laugh anymore. At first, my sisters just brushed it off because we assumed he was still working full time. It turns out he would leave and pretend he had work every day. We had no idea what was going on with our family so we ignoring everything. This made him even more depressed and now he rarely talks to us. Now that I know what’s really going on, I feel incredibly guilty and sad.
My dad is very stubborn (as most dads usually are) and he is in denial about his depression. Also, because he’s been getting less income, he’s been relying on his credit cards to make payments on even the smallest things and he doesn’t want to ask for money/help anymore. My dad is in debt because of this. Even though my sisters and I have jobs, we can’t afford to pull him out of this debt because we are taking care of my parents’ house and helping my mom with bills and other miscellaneous things. We can’t magically fix my dad’s depression, but alleviating my dad’s debt is one way to remove some stress. My sisters and I are currently trying to get help for his depression and even though he says he’s okay, he isn’t. I don’t know if my dad will ever be the same but I want him to know that we are here for him. Depression isn’t something that people can get over in a day and we have no idea what my dad is going through, emotionally or physically, but we want to help him.
I want to help him in any way I can because I love him and he’s the best dad in the world. My dad has no idea I’m doing this, so I hope we can reach the goal and bring him some relief.
Thank you so much for reading! Any signal boosting is greatly appreciated!!!!!
please help karen if you can. she is a really good friend of mine
- My therapist: Look at nature. Look at flowers. We never walk into our garden and say "Oh wouldn't that flower be so much more pretty if it were taller? Or red instead of pink?" No, we don't. Because nature was created perfect just as it is. And so are we. We are part of nature, we are how we're meant to be, we are perfect just as we are.
If you don’t think this is the cutest thing in the world. You’re wrong
When I say something that should not be controversial
Why aren’t 50% of coal miners women? Why not 50% of janitors or pest control workers? Don’t forget front line military!
Likewise, why aren’t men 50% of college enrollment and 50% of teachers?
We should eliminate the stupid “personal choice” thing because forcing people into certain professions is way more fun.
THIS IS NOT ABOUT FORCING PEOPLE INTO PROFESSIONS
THIS IS ABOUT WOMEN GOING INTO SCIENCE BEING DISCOURAGED
THIS IS ABOUT WOMEN BEING DISCRIMINATED AGAINST
FIRST, WHAT GBT SAID.^
FUNNY YOU SHOULD MENTION WOMEN COAL MINERS. BECAUSE I STUDY THEM. AND GUESS WHAT?
Women had to fight court cases to be allowed into coal mines as workers. Once a few women paved the way, thousands of women followed in short suit because on average, their incomes increased 500% over working as domestic workers, doing textile piecework and waitressing. Some saw their income jump 1000%.
Dig a little deeper, and you’ll find women have been mining coal for centuries. They were pushed out in the Victorian period because the mansplainers of the day could tolerate women wielding such a phallic object as a shovel underground with male workers present. And wearing pants! Still, women disguised themselves as men to work in the mines.
Oh, and World War II. Where did all the coal come from then? Oh, that’s right. Women. Women who were expected to stand aside and let the men take their jobs when the war was over and were denied benefits when they later developed black lung.
Also, can we just talk about how absurd it is to say that women don’t make up 50% of ‘janitors’?
Gee, I wonder if that’s because when a woman is hired to be the primary cleaner and caretaker of a property, it gets called ‘housekeeping’ or ‘maidservice’ and pays less than the EXACT SAME JOB, which if done by a man is given the title ‘janitor’?
Why aren’t men 50% of college enrollment? Because men aren’t 50% of college applications. No one’s exactly sure why, but the prevailing guess? Because it’s easier for men to get a professional job without a degree. Which means it’s easier for men to earn a living wage without going into debt. Which increases the already existent wealth gap, already exacerbated by the income gap.
(And if you’ll allow me to get all snarkily gender essentialist for a moment, maybe you boys just can’t cut it in higher ed. Even those of you getting into colleges are dropping out at rates WAY higher than women. They were probably just there looking for a wife to provide for them, though, am I right? Ah, get back in the toolshed, don’t worry your silly little heads about it.)
Oh my god I want to fucking marry this entire post.
Dear. GOD. This is fantastic <3